Do we really LOVE?

For most people, this is a strange world we live in, nothing about extremes of happiness and sadness, one day we have a viable harmonious
relationship with mutual enjoyment, the next it appears to have all gone.

We then wander what we had in the first place, was it even real? Was it based on any solid sound foundation or was it just a flutter in the wind?

The truth is that real love can only be a pact between two people sharing each others willingness to accept differences.

This would have to include our individual choices, as there is no way that we can impose our standards, beliefs and prejudices onto another.

We need to allow people the room to move, and if we truly care for them, encourage them to do or BE whatever they desire.

When one person attacks another, this person is not centered and is trying to impose his belief system on the other.

As long as the other in turn reacts and then joins the game, he then becomes the victim.

Victims and attackers can never be really happy, as they are only playing a game, and have simply accepted this role for the duration.

A victim is no longer a victim when he refuses to accept the impositions of the attacker, who is always trying to change the other.

His choices in this situation are simple, he either gives it no energy what so ever, does his best to settle things down and responds in a
passive manner, or he removes him self from the scene due to his unwillingness to be overwhelmed by the imbalance and air of non
acceptance by the attacker.

But of cause in fact both the attacker and victim are often locked into the game and in so doing, can never be happy, until they step outside
their current belief system which can only produce much sadness, disillusionment and pain.

The world will always be at war as long as it consists of attackers and victims that accept their respective rolls in this game.

Only when we decide to refuse to play this game, and only then, are we free, we then support each other in all that we do,
rather than under mine each other in all that we do.

We encourage each other to simply BE.
And that also brings us back to the meaning of love, best described in the First Letter to the Corinthians, 13^th chapter of St. Paul’s……

Love is patient and kind, love is not jealous or boastful, it is not arrogant or rude, love does not insist on it’s own way.
It is not irritable or resentful.
It does not rejoice at wrong, but rejoices in the right.
Love bears all things, believes all things, endures all things ...........

The real success in dealing with others is not control, but the granting of freedom of mind, thinking and action, and accepting them as an
independent being, without this, there can never be love.

Now the question we must ask ourselves is: Have we set the family and friends around us free? Are we really loving, if this is what it means?